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5 “Desperation Signals” That Automatically Scare Your Network Marketing Prospects Away: (Be Attractive Instead)

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My Mom Warned Me:
“You Won’t Find Any GOOD Girls At The Bar!”

Dangit! She was right…

Traditional network marketing reminded me of when I was twenty-something, running around like Mr. Vegas, “looking for love in all the wrong places”, prospecting lower-end prospects at the bar…

Sometimes there were only like three “lower caliber” prospects. (Not the best qualified people at the greatest level, if you know what I mean!)

When we first fell into Network Marketing, same thing…

They told me, “write a list of 100 people and hunt down your dis-interested, low-caliber, unqualified friends and family members”, LOL! 

So naturally, we went into massive action and ran out of good contacts and qualified leads pretty damn quick!
So when you “hit the wall”, what do you do next? … 

Have you been told to go post and prospect on Facebook? You know, getting back in touch with your old middle school friend with a an awkward hidden agenda (to look at your mlm opportunity)!  Makes you feel a little weird hey?

Now I’m not saying it doesn’t actually work if you’re masterful with it, but I’ve also seen people get their Facebook account shut down for spamming other people’s posts and piggybacking marketer’s content, or even worse, getting a reputation for being “that girl” to avoid both offline and online! LOL

OMGToday I see distributors automatically repel 99.99% of their network with “that” wrong approach, “If you’re interested, private message me” and “lose weight, ask me how” and “you should join my team, you would do so good”, etc…

Many network marketers hit us up every week with their lazy copy and paste strategy that shows me they don’t really care about me, and they’re just looking for anyone!

I also just saw someone’s wall today with posts all the way down the page that say, “today is the best day to join my team with our new launch”….

I felt sad for her. There wasn’t even one “like” or comment! I coulda swore I even saw a tumbleweed flying across her page! LOL

It’s kinda like someone asking you to marry them on the first date without even thinking to qualifying you or caring enough to build a relationship.

Frustrated + Anxious + Hit The Wall = Franxious

So why is it that most of you and your team’s best prospects “not interested“, even though you have the best solution for their problems, not to mention the best opportunity/product/service ever? 

It was killing us, but the up-line leaders just kept saying things like “It’s not selling, it’s sharing” and “it’s a numbers game” and “don’t worry about the haters, just keep following the system!”

Well, it took us way too long to finally admit that their old “system” was not working so great, and we had to stop being attached to all the time we had invested, and start being open-minded to today’s better strategies moving forward.

Long story short, we went and found the right online mentors, and what we learned was pretty d*mn disturbing. We had been doing it the hard way for a very long time.

The truth is, most network marketers are never taught any real marketing.

My new mentors say they should have called it “hunt down your network and throw them all against the wall, (like spaghetti), to see if it sticks”! LOL!

Let me explain…


When we were out the other night, I asked my wife if she was seeing what I was seeing…

As we looked around, we realized:
The “prospecting game” between single guys and gals is like prospecting for your business!

We sat watching some of these awkward guys trying to prospect different women. Some were doing it absolutely WRONG, with no posture and no game, using the same old strategies that every high(er)-caliber woman is completely immune to.

I'm gonna hang by the bar, put out the vibe.Their approach was repelling and they got absolutely no results. I just wanted to go over there and shake these guys and tell ’em…

“Hey man, you’re doing it wrong! They can tell!” 

“They can tell WHUUT?”

“You know man, you know, that ever-so-slight ‘desperate’ energy you’re unconsciously giving off… You’re trying WAY too hard man. It’s never gonna work out very great if you don’t fix “that”!

You can’t do the same thing over and over again and expect a different result, unless you want to stay single forever, (aka, burn yourself out in your Network Marketing business) and finally give up, right?

So do you have that

None of us want to admit it:  “Naw, I don’t do that!”

But the biggest challenge is, we aren’t even aware we’re doing “it” – (that slightest desperate or needy energy) – and it’s that energy that makes people automatically run away from you on social media platforms.

Today’s savvy consumers have extremely sensitive “sales radars”, and as today’s savviest entrepreneurs, we must be committed, sticking in there and getting around the ‘best of the best’ online coaching gurus to equip ourselves with the necessary ninja skills for today’s online business. 

We will ALL be a bit desperate at an unconscious level if we don’t have enough ‘leads’ –  (an endless flow of interested (and qualified) people to talk to.)

It’s also the reason why 97% of network marketers struggle and quit. 

However, when you commit and do whatever it takes, later you’ll look back and see it from the 40,000 foot view, highly positioned with social influence on your network, making it look effortless.

So one of the most critical elements to seducing your future spouse,, oops.. I meant seducing the person you’d really want in your Network Marketing business is…

Your Emotions

Unfortunately, most network marketer’s emotions DO NOT act in their best interest when it comes to prospecting and recruiting (especially when you really want someone in your business.)

Your emotions, body language, posture and Facebook posts cause all kinds of mischief, like making you look (slightly) insecure, needy, clingy, and predictable… All things that MURDER any attraction.

chasing?Your unconscious “emotions” take over your brain and your body, and it disengages your logical side.

Even in a simple social media post, they can feel you being “needy”, with that slight anxious or desperate energy, if you don’t have an abundance of qualified people to work with.

Once you discover how to attract more qualified prospects than you know what to do with, you’ll have better posture because you won’t even have the time to care whether they say “yes” or “no”.

In fact, it is absolutely crucial to have so many leads that you will not invest the time on any one person that is not already self-motivated and ready to buy your products or join you.

If you’d like to skip ahead and discover how to position yourself across the internet and social media channels like we do, you can click HERE for our exact blueprint.)

But before we even go further into any of that…

Here Are 5 Ever-So-Slight Signs Revealed That You’re Acting NEEDY on Social Media, (in no particular order).

1. Feeling a compulsion to message or talk to your prospect: 

Have you ever had that feeling? You know, where you’re not sure if you’re “bugging” or being “pushy”?

Again, it may be that you’re emotionally attached, (to whether they say “yes” or “no”), or you didn’t set an appointment before you left the last meeting with them. OR BOTH!

Here’s how you fix it:

NEVER leave a prospect without setting up the next appointment, so that it’s never left up in the air when (or if) you should meet with or call them next.

This way, when you call at the set time, you’re just being professional, calling when you said you would, (which builds your credibility).

Next, be attached to TRACKING your work and hitting the NUMBERS, instead of being attached to the few who may say “yes” or “no”.

There are actually millions of qualified prospects out there, all over Facebook and the internet, who are already open-minded, looking for solutions, and already proven to buy in that category…

In fact, Facebook literally helps you laser target these exact people, so you can simply help them get what they want instead of dragging any unmotivated dead bodies!

So if you were to get your product or service in front of thousands at a time – (MARKETING to that NETWORK) – a percentage of that laser-targeted audience will always convert into purchasers of what you have to offer…

With the right online strategy, you won’t ever have to ride the emotional roller coaster of “ups and downs” or care who says “yes” or “no”, EVER AGAIN.

2. Unable to “play it cool”:

You know when you go to a friend’s house, and there’s the annoying, over-excited DOG, jumping on you, licking your face, forever trying to get you to play with his wet slobbery tennis ball and rubbing it’s shedding fur all over your jeans?


Now on the other hand, the cat stays a few feet away at a distance and “flirts from afar”, meowing, playing cool, where YOU have to try harder and practically BEG to get it’s attention?

Be the cool CAT instead of the annoying DOG..

The cat plays it cool and is “doing it’s own thing”, teasing you, and you’re just not happy until it LETS you get to pet it! …..  BE THE CAT!

And yes, you do have to take some extra steps to become “The Cool Cat”, but it’s SO worth it. More on that at the bottom of this article and in other posts

3. Blurting out your feelings on your product or information too soon:

Do this instead:
If you were on a first date, would you eve say, “OMG, you would be SUCH a good wife, we should get married!”? Of course not, right?

But I’ve had many distributors hit me up on Facebook, trying to prospect me for their team, it makes me LOL! They blurt out, “OMG, you would be SO good at this! You should join my team!”

I always turn around and teach ’em, and always immediately teach new members of our teams, “SLOW is fast, and FAST is slow…. Especially on (Social) Media!

When you go too fast with people, your business will go ultra SLOW. But when you go slow and build a trusting relationship, (An example would be: putting out valuable content with no expectation of something in return), your business goes extremely FAST!

If you can learn to master meaningful conversations, and care enough to get down to what THEY really want in their life (or need in their business), and then set an appointment to show them how they can achieve it, they’ll show up and do it for their own reasons, not yours!

4. Making yourself too available:  

Do this instead:
(This one makes me laugh just thinking about it!)…

When my wife and I were first hooking up, I was being my best version of myself! LOL.

She asked me if I wanted to go with her to the shoe store, and because I was way too excited, I blurted out, “sure let’s do this!” LOL! (Yeah pffft, just what I always wanted – to go shopping for women’s shoes!) LOL!

But now 10 years later, I’m like, “NAH, that’s ok, I’m good. I’ll see you when you get back”.. LOL!!

Be the “later” ME!

Don’t just say “anything to make them happy” just because you really “want” them in your business. Be real.

If you have to practically beg them, or drag their dead body to even watch a short video, you probably don’t even want them in your business.

Your energy should tell them, “Hey you’re lucky to even know about this right now because of my value, who I know, and what I’m doing. And I’m doing this with or without you”.

Posture up, because your time is valuable! Set appointments AT LEAST a few days out, and if you’re doing it right, you’re so busy with all of your other prospects and leads, that you won’t even have time until NEXT WEEK! (I’ll show you how to have way too many people to talk to below in this post.)

5. Showing too much disappointment when they don’t show up:


Do this instead: Get in front of it.

I always call a prospect out before they can flake, (in a joking way of course), saying, “Ok so I’m not gonna get the voicemail am I?”

I also let them know:
“Hey, I’m putting it in my calendar right now, ARE YOU?”

And if you’re postured enough…
“Hey, if I’m blocking out this time for you, then that means I’m not investing that time into someone else, so if you’re not going to be able to make it , MAKE SURE to let me know at least 24-48 hours in advance so I can fill that space with someone else.”

And finally, if they don’t show up, you should have TEN other qualified leads waiting to talk to you.

Personally, I’m almost thankful when they don’t show up, because I have many other interested people waiting for me!
(**Sometimes I double-book myself on purpose, just to make sure I have the right posture and energy with them!)

Make it so it’s absolutely “no biggie” and they know:
You were just letting them know what you’re doing, so they’re not mad at you later for not telling them about it, right? Ok, lastly…

The Most Powerful Rejection-Free ATTRACTION

Ok so now, if you want to stop “looking for love in all the wrong places” and simply become more attractive than you ever thought possible, by taking our Attraction Marketing email serious, for free RIGHT HERE.

This is how you attract more high-caliber entrepreneurs than you know what to do with, simply because you finally got rid of “THAT”!

We all learn, sooner or later,  that it’s all about becoming valuable as a leader, and if you’re a successful business owner, you must become ultra effective and efficient with Social Media.

So we hope this has helped you (and made you chuckle) with some great attraction ideas.

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Now go out and have fun with your new effortless attraction and enrollment! Can’t wait to hear your results!

The World Is Yours, Marco and Mari!


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(Last Updated On: September 12, 2018)

About the Author Marco Frank Montoya

Marc Frank Montoya was a world-class international professional snowboarder for over 16 years. Living an extraordinary lifestyle, he could not go back to a "the norm" and was psychologically un-employable. Launching businesses, he quickly realized the stress, responsibility, lack of freedom, less travel, and most painful of all, less quality time with his kids. Searching for solutions and investing into personal and financial development, he found Home Business. "Done wrong, it's a nightmare. Done RIGHT it's a DREAM". Marco now helps entrepreneurs brand themselves and market their business online, from anywhere in the world.

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Cam says

Awesome article/advice!

    Marco Frank Montoya says

    Right on Cam, thanks!

Bill says

Sooooooo relevant in the marketing business I’m in!

    Marco Frank Montoya says

    Haha glad you liked it Bill! #prospecting102!

Mark Frantz says

I appreciate the insight. All of it is very true and relevant to my current situation. THANK you for sharing.

    Marco Frank Montoya says

    My pleasure!

Sunshine Bolinger says

That was an eye opener. Great knowledge! Thank you!

    Marco Frank Montoya says

    You’re very welcome Sunshine!

Emeld says

Very Helpful, Thans Mr. Montya

    Marco Frank Montoya says

    Ah you’re very welcome Emeld!

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